Question: He also OWNS the rug that his crimes and those of his colleagues get swept under.
And he OWNS the people who do the sweeping.
He OWNS APD. And did so at the time of Kait's murder, when he was president pro tem of the NM State Senate. Asked on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 at 03:13:19 PM | | | | manny aragon winning car |  | | | Question: it was probably rigged! he needs a car like he needs money. Asked on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 at 01:37:51 PM | | | | Rod | | | Question: I would like to thank Rod for removing the stuck vase in the cemetary. I tried and couln't remove it. I was afraid the flowers would wilt without water in this heat.
By the way, Manny Aragon won a car at Isleta Casino. It was in the Alb. Journal last week. It sure is taking a long time for his trial. I hope it won't be swept under the rug. Asked on Tuesday, July 22, 2008 at 04:23:47 PM | | | | Bittersweet | | | | Question: I loved your books when I was younger and didn't even know about your daughter's death until about a year ago when I was cruising the internet one day and looking for some of your books as a trip down memory lane. When I came across this site, i was hooked and spent hours reading the case and the messages. Every few months I check back to see if there are new developments. What is amazing is that after all of this time, there are always fresh and new messages from people that care and want to help. You have a special gift of writing and I am sure that as an author it was incredible to be published and have so many books that have been read by millions. That is something not many authors accomplish...But what's so interesting about that to me is the fact that it's your gift and talent of writing that has enabled the case to stay in the forefront of so many people's minds. It's seems a bittersweet destiny that your gift has been the reason that Kait's story continues. However, I think it's wonderful that you continue to push forward and use the skills you were given to make a difference, and hopefully push someone that knows the truth to come foreward! That being said, I wanted to ask one question: if you were able to learn the truth about the murder, would that be enough to give you peace? Or are you determined to see justice served against the people involved? Of course we all hope for justice, but if that wasn't possible, at this point is KNOWING the truth enough? Time seems to weigh on the conscience-and I hope that one day someone will find the stregnth to do what is right and come foreward, I believe eventually someone will. I wish you all the best. Asked on Monday, July 21, 2008 at 09:35:30 PM | | | | Rod's message. part 1 | | | Question: Rod, your first thought was that Dung "knew" and had killed Kait and might kill you as well. It makes sense that you would have assumed that her killing might have been motivated by Jealousy. But Kait's mom made a very significant comment--that your subconscious may hold a key. Think of it this way: if Kait had "disappeared" or been killed in one of the usual ways that jealous boyfriends and husbands kill women they profess to "love," your conscious explanation would fit with what you read in the paper. But Kait's killing looked like a random drive-by (Albuqueque law enforcements' official position).
The question is: what did you know about Dung that made you sure that he was responsible for Kait's murder (although he may not have pulled the trigger) and that you might be in danger as well? This feeling you had coincides with psychic information that said Kait may have been worried that what she knew endangered her loved ones as well as herself.
What might Kait have said--even in jest--that would allowed you to know that Dung was responsible?
Something she said or you observed lead you to be sure he could be involved in murder.
Thanks for sharing your memories and observations. Kait was lucky to have a boyfriend like you.
Asked on Saturday, July 19, 2008 at 10:17:07 PM | | | Reply: I'll leave this for Rod to respond to. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | thoughts and prayers | | | Question: It is truly a sad world that we live in when the people that are paid to 'serve and protect' fail to do either, either because of the lack of the ability or a more sinister agenda. Stupidity is eventually forgivable, but in my personal opinion the depth and breadth of the 'stupidity' that APD exhibited in their handling of your daughter's case goes beyond into the sinister...I hope and pray that you and your family will find answers, and it won't require an act of congress for that to come to its fruition. Sadly, I feel that that is EXACTLY what will have to happen because evidently, the uniformed men are either a. too cowardly to thoroughly investigate the case or b. they are too well paid to do so.
I have two children of my own, and I am astounded by the strength and love the Arquette family has exhibited to persevere through such an agony. Imagining one of my children's lives ending in such a way makes me homicidal! Lois, you are truly one strong woman, and I admire your pro-active approach to this. I would have been down at the police station armed with an uzi myself when detectives told me that evidence that is so obviously condeming for Dung and his cronies was 'irrelevant.'
My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I finished reading "Who Killed My Daughter?" two hours ago and I will continue to think about this case for the rest of my life. It's haunting. May justice be served. Asked on Friday, July 18, 2008 at 09:10:43 PM | | | Reply: Thank you for your kind words and emotional support. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | Rod | | | Question: Dear Rod,
Isn't there some way you could find out for the Arquette's who shot and killed Kait. There has to be someone that she mentioned that might have given you a clue. By you not answering a lot of the unanswered questions that many of us have had, I'm thinking you really didn't know Kait that well. Were you starting out in your relationship with her? That would explain why she wouldn't have felt comfortable confiding in you. Or maybe she didn't want you involved with any of it. Asked on Friday, July 18, 2008 at 01:25:27 PM | | | Reply: I'll leave all questions addressed to Rod for him to answer. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | from Rod with thanks | | | | Question: Yes, I still live in Albuquerque and I visited Kait's grave at sunset this evening. I would like to thank whomever left the orange flowers. I was able to remove the stuck vase and put them in along with the flowers I brought. I will send Lois the picture I took of them. It was very thoughtful. Asked on Thursday, July 17, 2008 at 07:38:06 PM | | | | Blessings to your family | | | Question: I just wanted to say how moved I was to re-read your amazing book - I was moved to tears at the frustrating journey your family has taken for the justince you so deserve. As a mother of a 17 1/2 year old daughter, I can not imagine what you have gone thru. My heart and prayers go out to you and I can only pray that you will get answers to the questions you ask.
Lynda Asked on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 at 07:22:56 AM | | | Reply: Thank you, Lynda. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | 19 years | | | Question: I can't believe it's been this long. Whoever you are, person or people that know, please let the Arquettes off the hook. Lois & Don and the children need to know what happened.
APD, unless you have a MAJOR shakeup in personnel, I don't see you doing anything productive with this case... you're a poor example of the law enforcement system.
Rod, thank you for posting your thoughts. I hope you continue to do this. Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 09:17:54 PM | | Reply: Rod's subconscious may hold more information than he realizes, so I'm glad he continues to stay involved with Kait's case and to keep his mind open to "signs" from her.
Another thing Betty Muench said about him in her reading in 1993:
“There is a key, a small and seemingly insignificant key, that Rod will possess and he does not quite know what it is. He will feel some urgency however in this. Something that Kait will have said in seeming jest and yet it will be the key.” Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | kait\ | | | | Question: I am really sad, I go from time to time to Kait\'s grave and there is never anybody there and she very rarely has flowers. Me and my daughter went once and took flowers to her. I realise that her family is not in Albuquerque, but it still makes me sad. Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 04:13:02 PM | | | Reply: We visit Albuquerque once a year and put flowers on Kait's grave. When we do that, I always look in the metal vase by her grave marker to see if anyone has left a message for us or for Kait. Occasionally somebody does. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | Rod | | | | Question: Does Rod still live in Albuquerque? Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 03:21:16 PM | | | Reply: I'll let Rod respond to this. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | Rod | | | | Question: Are you still in Albuquerque? Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 03:05:37 PM | | | Reply: I'll let Rod respond to any questions that are asked about him. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | 19th anniversary from "Rod" part 2 cont | | | Question: cont...
The newsprint got completely soaked and the rubbing looked horrible. You couldn’t make out what Lois wrote for her daughters grave. Once the sprinklers stopped, and my chuckles subsided, I got a few towels from my trunk and dried off her grave marker. I pulled another sheet of newsprint and got to work again. I was unable to determine what I was doing wrong, but what I thought would be a perfect duplicate of the sweet words on Kait’s marker was more of a smudged puzzle of marks vaguely resembling anything.
The sun was starting to set, so I put aside the newsprint and put a new white candle I had purchased onto Kait’s marker. Of course now the wind decided to whip up and keeping her candle lit became troublesome. Nature was intent on helping Kait make a wish this year, and far be it for me to deny her. After a few more moments of contemplation, I picked up her candle, the charcoal sticks, and the failed rubbing attempts, and went back to my car.
I blew a kiss in the direction of her grave and whispered, “Maybe this year, kiddo.” Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 01:32:02 AM | | | | 19th anniversary from \"Rod\" part 2 | | | Question: 35 years old. I’d been 35 for three months when I headed for Sunset Memorial Park an hour before sunset. I had my laptop, a large binder full of newsprint, and some charcoal sticks. I had been planning to due a rubbing of her gravestone for years, but never felt up to the task. My 35th year had been life altering though, so I thought this would be the birthday I would finally get it done.
As usual, only a few cars were scattered throughout the grounds when I pulled up to the big tree that sits in line with Kait’s grave at the corner of Canna & Rose within the cemetery. The first duty of my ritual is to kiss the first two fingers of my right hand and gently tap the marker that denotes Kait lies sweetly within the ground. Then a “Hiya Kiddo”, though I don’t know why I use ‘kiddo’ as I was only 3 months older than her and never called her that when she was alive.
For the most part, the cemetery keeps Kait’s grave marker clear of overgrowth, but I pulled a few strands of grass away to keep the edge clean. I sat the pad down and began to rip one large page from the binder. It didn’t completely cover Kait’s grave marker. I opened the charcoal container, which contained 3 sticks. I took one out and started to brush the page on top of the gravestone with it. About half way into the rubbing, the sprinklers turned on and started blasting me from several directions with water.
I started laughing, as even 16 years later; some remnant of Kait must reside here as this feels like the kind of thing she would do to get me. Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 01:30:24 AM | | Reply: Rod, this story is fascinating in light of a reading that psychic, Betty Muench, did in 1993. You had just revealed yourself to us, and we weren't sure if you truly WERE Kait's secret second boyfriend or what your relationship with her -- if it truly existed -- might have been. In other words, we were deciding whether or not to trust you.
So, without your knowing, I had Betty Muench do a reading on you. All of it was positive, but there was one particular thing she said that is reflected in your story of Kait's "getting you" and making you laugh when you were trying to do this rubbing in the cemetary:
Betty said: "There will be this sense of a special humor between Kait and Rod that formed a bond of affinity. There will be this which he will seem to miss very much, for now he knows he cannot laugh with her any longer .... To him this sense of the humor that existed between him and Kait seems diminished, but NOT TO HER!!! Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | 19th anniversary from "Rod" part 1 | | | Question: I remember exactly where I was with vivid detail when I learned that Kait was dead. I somewhat remember our first kiss, vaguely remember when we met, but I remember that moment on the morning of July 18, 1989 like it was today.
I was at the Winchell’s donut shop on Wyoming, just south of Menual with my father when he set the paper down on the table after getting us some donuts. Though I love the smell of coffee and occasionally drink it, it runs right through me so I rarely get it, and this day was no exception. Apple fritter, that’s the donut I had.
“Honor Student Dies Following Car Shooting” the paper read. “Oh that’s sad,” I thought an instant before my world began to spin like a top thrown haphazardly by a toddler. “That looks like Kait!” I thought as I grabbed the paper. “Oh my god. This can’t be,” I continued to think as my heart seized. “We’re going to Cliff’s this weekend,” I kept repeating over and over again in my head.
I read the story, and reread the story, hungrily trying to find the page that said that the Journal apologized for getting the facts incorrect and that Kait was indeed fine and well at home. Then my thoughts turned dark. “Dung knows.” I thought to myself, “He killed Kait and now he’s going to kill me.”
I looked around the donut shop to see if any Vietnamese males were waiting in the wings to execute me too. There weren’t any. That was the exact moment when I ‘died.’ It wasn’t a literal death, but the person I was supposed to become would never see another day. Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 01:25:49 AM | | | | 19th anniversary from "Rod" | | | Question: On this 19th anniversary, I thought I would post some writings I’ve done over the years when I throw myself back into the emotional mire of my existence without Kait. I’m in no way the author Lois is, but I hope you all find this literary exchange an interesting glimpse into “Rod”...
Asked on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 01:23:54 AM | | | | Who Killed My Daughter? | | | Question: HI. I've just finished reading your book Who Killed My Daughter and I just cant believe how absent minded the police can be sometimes.Do you really think that police are doing a good job of keeping people safe seeing in your case when you brought concrete evidence to the table and they wouldn't even consider following up on it.
Have you had anymore helpful tips on who killed your daughter and if its not too much would you mind telling me about them?
I can since peoples energy, like what mood they're in and I can since the energy of the spirits of the dead but i'm only 15.Do you think I could possibly become a psychic? And I would like your opinion when i finally decided to write a message and came to the site, the door of the room I am in slowly shut and even though the wind was not blowing outside, the plastic on one of the windows began to shift and move as if the wind was blowing or something ran their fingers aloong side it.Do you think that Kait was possibly trying to communicate with me or let me know she was here?
I would love to read more of your books what book stores do you know of that still sell them in St.Louis? Asked on Monday, July 14, 2008 at 11:06:18 AM | | Reply: It's my personal belief that almost all people have some level of psychic ability, but it's stronger in some than in others. There's no way for me to know how strong it is in you or why the door swung closed.
I have nothing to do with the sale of my books. I just write them, and my publisher takes care of the distribution. If you can't find them in local bookstores, most of them are available from on-line bookstores like amazon.com. Thank you for wanting to read them.
Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | Have you considered putting it on TV? | | | Question: Ms. Duncan,
My fiancé and I were just talking about how we do not read many books anymore. It got us to talk about our favorite authors. For me, your name came up immediately. When I was younger I had a lot of trouble getting trough an entire book. But your stories made it really easy for me. It has been at least 10 years since I have read The Third Eye, Down a Dark Hall, They Never Came Home, and Who Killed My Daughter? I just purchased all 4 of these books and I am anxiously awaiting their arrival! There are so many ridiculous things on TV today. Why not air a show that really matters? Have you ever tried to get your story aired on one of those crime solving TV shows? They have so many experts and they seem to figure out the impossible. I would love to see those who caused you and yours so much harm punished.
[Ana F]. Asked on Friday, July 04, 2008 at 12:50:27 PM | | Reply: Thank you for liking my books so much and for wanting to reread them.
Kait's story was dramatized on Unsolved Mysteries in 1992 and that show is occasionally still rerun on the Lifetime Channel. But now the case is to old for today's true crime shows to find it of interest. It's possible the publication of the sequel (which I have not yet completed) will revitalize media interest. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
| | | Kait Question | | | Question: Did you ever locate the "Rod" that was mentioned in your book?
Asked on Thursday, July 03, 2008 at 05:24:47 PM | | | Reply: I didn't locate Rod, ROD located ME. He contacted me after reading WHO KILLED MY DAUGHTER? He was, indeed, Kait's "secret boyfriend," but was not the person who took her to The Desert Castle. Answered by: Kait's Mom |
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